The holiday season brings all things happy - parties, shopping, gift exchanges, dressing up, and even Starbucks holiday drinks. However, we know that Christmas and New Years can also bring sadness too. These resource girls both live away from their families and have spent multiple holiday seasons alone. Spending Christmas alone isn’t something you see on TV commercials or pictures in the mall but it happens all the time. Over the last five to seven years we’ve learned a thing or two about surviving the holidays away from family and friends. We want you to know if you’re alone this holiday season that you’re really not alone and we’ve been there too. Here’s how we’ve survived and made the most of the holidays when things looked grim.
Have a plan - a DIY project, movie you’re going to see, friend to hang out with. Try to have a plan even if it only involves yourself, don’t order take out last minute and sit on the couch alone.
See a movie - tons of new movies come out at Christmas
Volunteer (ideas here) - sometimes taking the focus off of ourselves is the best thing to do.
Make a choice - avoid a victim mentality that says, “I’m alone. I have no one and I hate Christmas.” Instead find one or two things to be thankful for and focus on that. Maybe try telling yourself instead, “I’m healthy, young, and have a roof over my head. Next year can be different, for now I’m thankful.”
Decorate - I have a small 3 foot Christmas tree I set up on years I have to work or am just not home a lot. Acting like Christmas isn’t happening or trying to avoid all things holiday doesn’t help anyone.
Dress up - even if it’s only for you. Get in the shower, straighten your hair, put some makeup on and maybe even some heels. Buy yourself a new sweater or some cute boots. Something that says you’re being the best version of you.
Workout - most holidays I’ve found myself at some special, holiday themed workout classes. Check schedules at your local gym or yoga studio and see if you can get in on a holiday sweat sesh. If there is nothing available in your area, Jillian is more than happy to help you release some endorphins and feel better. Shake it off!
I’ll be at the hospital this Christmas. It’s not my first choice but I’m choosing to be thankful for my job and that I’m not the one sick in the hospital. I have a plan - my good friend and I will be doing a little gift exchange and homemade Christmas treats will definitely be involved. Life doesn’t always go how we plan and that includes how we spend the holidays. Know it can still be a happy time of year. Lastly, if you’re surrounded by your loved ones this year send a little holiday cheer to someone who is alone (gift ideas here, here, here, and here).
Needing a simple project to make yourself feel extra special this holiday season? Look no further than this no-sew DIY scarf we are sharing. Head into JoAnn’s or your local fabric store and find a fabric of your choosing. I’ve been majorly crushing on all the plaid this winter, so it was an easy choice for me.
Buy 1 yard of fabric.
If you are feeling extra crafty go to the trimmings aisle and buy 1 yard of anything that catches your eye and matches your fabric. I went with leather. Pom pom trim would be super cute, or even some fringe.
When you get home fold your scarf in half so that it creates a triangle. I sewed my trim along the edge of the top triangle piece right at the V. You can add trim all the way around your scarf, but all the edges are not seen if you fold your scarf like I do below. You can hand stitch the trim if you aren’t a sewer or even use fabric glue (done in other posts here, here and here).
Follow these simple steps on how to tie your scarf. Yes, it’s that simple! No cutting or sewing. As always, make it your own!
It may sound corny but give your scarf meaning. Tell yourself when you wear your scarf you’re a strong independent woman and that your scarf empowers you. LC bought me some Wonder Woman panties that I wore when I took my nursing licensure exam, went for a big job interview, etc. She also gave me an initial necklace that I say gives me superpowers. Get out of your own head and face the day with confidence. It’s amazing how having a mind set change can turn your entire holiday around.