"When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on."
- Thomas Jefferson
I found this dress at Forever 21 right before Christmas. It was one of those shopping trips where you really aren't in the mood to shop, you are on a mission for one thing and pray you find it.
I had originally went into Forever to look for LC a sweater for the DIY we posted earlier this week, when on my way to the clearance rack I spotted this gem. It was only twenty-five dollars, super cute and versatile, fit like a glove and I was obsessed with the knot. At first glance I thought the knot may look weird but after trying it on I was in love. This dress seemed to be symbolic of the next few months for me.
I had probably the best Christmas I had ever had this past year. Being with my entire family in Michigan was so special, seeing Lauren and Nathan and celebrating with Daniel's family was like magic. I kept feeling like I was in the perfect Christmas movie.
Fast forward a few months later and my life has been feeling anything but a picture perfect Christmas movie. It's downright been chaotic. There's still some baggage I'm dealing with from my divorce that's been super stressful and at times hard to deal with. On top of this, it's added housing issues that feels all too overwhelming especially since I don't have my next steps fully planned out yet and I could have to move quickly. Talk about feeling out of control. Eeeek.
Not to bore you with too much of a history lesson but Thomas Jefferson would know a thing or two about tying a knot and hanging on. He was one of the Founding Fathers of this great country, he helped America break away from British tyranny and wrote the Declaration of Independence. I mean if there's someone who knows something about hanging on, it's this dude. It kind of puts my problems in perspective. All that to say I've been thinking a lot about a physical rope with a huge knot, and picturing myself hanging on with all my might. Repeating to myself that I'm a bossy lady and nothing can break my grip. I may also be found singing in my car to Andy Grammer's, It's Good To Be Alive. Just me, my knot dress, my imaginary rope, hanging on for dear life.
How I'm hanging on when I make it to the end of my rope:
- Fake it 'til you make it
This was always my mom's motto for us growing up. Not in the sense that she wanted us to be someone we weren't but sometimes you just have to trick yourself. I remember being scared as a child to go to an event or talk to someone and my mom would repeat this to me. As soon as I acted like I wasn't afraid I somehow wasn't anymore. Sometimes you just have to speak positive vibes and trick yourself into being ok.
- Remember this too shall pass
Sometimes life gets difficult and no matter how hard you try there's not a lot of hope to hold on to. However, this situation will pass. Sometimes this may be the only thing you have to hold on to but at least it's something! It may not be as soon as you want or as painless but at some point it will pass.
- Focus on what you can control
It may not be a lot but we can always control our attitude. I'm preaching to the choir, believe me, but sometimes we just have to give ourselves an attitude check. We can't control what other people say or do but we can control out mind, how we respond when people make our blood boil or we feel mistreated. It may be something as small as deciding on what you're going to do in the next minute or hour or what you're having for dinner but focus on little things that you have power over and make the day the best you can using what you've got.
- Take a step back
Taking a step back to find a little perspective never hurt anyone. Sometimes it's as simple as a good night's sleep and starting over the next day. I tend to be a person that easily gets bogged down in the details so I have to continue to remind myself to look at the big picture. And steppin' can look good too! Snagged these blue suede shoes from Old Navy for only twenty dollars. These heels are my new go to!
- Add something with color. I loved these bright shoes since the dress was so neutral the bright blue stepped it up a notch.
- As pictured, when in doubt have a glass of wine to get those creative style juices flowing!
- For a little more funk add a leather jacket and patterned tights, big earrings and a bold lip.
To style a dress like this ||
- Think versatility! Can dress up with heels or dress down with flats or boots.
- Great for transitioning seasons. Since the dress is a sweater material it's definitely warmer on chilly spring days but then perfect for when the sun comes out and you can go sleeveless on a patio.
- Don't forget to layer! Can wear a cropped sweater over the dress when it's cold (as pictured) or even a tight long sleeve or turtleneck under. Throw a blazer over it or even add tights.
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As fate would have it, in the midst of some of my crazier days I had the privilege of meeting Katie and her lovely friend Jess.
Katie started KATIEBIRD Photography to show women they are worthy of existing in portraits. She not only photographs women of all ages but offers an entire photography experience. You come to her studio, have your hair and makeup done by Jess (who also loves to thrift, I knew I loved these ladies) and are ready for your portraits feeling like a total diva. The transformation was truly amazing, not because you looked like a different person but because you still looked like yourself but just the best version of yourself. To commemorate the amazing experience she offers pieces of wall art from your photographs as well as portfolios and albums . I spent the loveliest afternoon talking all things dance, our favorite thrifted finds and of course sharing a couple glasses of wine.
Katie always uses the hashtag #BEautifullyYOU
Sound familiar? It one hundred percent lines up with our motto of
BE RESOURCEFUL. BE YOU.
It was such a pleasure to meet and work with Katie and if you are local to the Denver area she is amazing.
Did we mention she's also a hip hop dancer? Unfortunately dance lessons did not come with the photographs.