This month for our book club pick we're taking a little bit different route.
The Four Agreements is a book that I kept hearing about even though it's been around for quite some time, since 1997 to be exact. I finally just decided I had to read it and I am SO glad that I did.
In The Four Agreements Ruiz reveals the source of self-liming beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. When one can truly keep these four agreements the door to personal freedom and happiness is opened. In the beginning of the book he helps the reader pinpoint prior agreements we've made with ourselves that have brought us suffering over the course of our lives. He then goes into detail on the four agreements and how when made with the deepest conviction they ultimately lead the way to happiness and freedom.
I have been so convicted since reading this book. I honestly hear the things people say to me through the lens of these agreements, as well as, trying to keep the agreements with every bone in my body.
Instead of discussion questions this month, we would challenge you to take some time to think about these agreements and how your life may be different if you kept them. Which one speaks to you most deeply? How come? If you want to read more, check out this amazing interview Oprah did with the author, Don Miguel Ruiz.
I have had the most revelation when it comes to not taking anything personally. Especially being in business for myself now I have had to withstand a lot of rejection. I am always putting myself out there when it comes to business, collaboration and trying to work with different clients. Many times it's not the right time or fit for that person so they will say no. I've had to develop thick skin and truly not take it personally. This book has been pivotal in helping me do that. I have also always thought about not taking negative things personally but Ruiz even goes into detail about why we shouldn't take positive compliments personally. This was a completely new concept I had never thought about and have been intrigued with ever since.
Whether you agree with Ruiz's philosophies or not, The Four Agreements is sure to get the wheels in your brain turning!
THE FOUR AGREEMENTS ||
BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.